by Lyn Lomasi, Staff Writer

Are you thinking about getting your kids a dog? Don't let that cute doggy face lure you in before your kids even know what to do. My kids have adopted several small animals before, most of them with special needs. However, hamsters and dogs are entirely different. My method for preparing the kids for dog adoption includes plenty of exposure to dogs. Based on our experiences, I firmly believe that prior dog exposure educates kids before dog adoption.

Utilize time with dogs belonging to family and friends. My sister has three cute Dachsunds (aka 'weiner dogs'). When she first started bringing them over, two of my kids were terrified of them. But she kept at it and now all of the kids adore the dogs and get excited each time they come over. The kids have also spent quality time with other dogs belonging to family and friends. I feel this opens them up to a wide range of experiences with dogs, both large and small.

Give kids a chance to take over feeding time. If you have a family member or friend who won't mind the kids taking over one or more scheduled feedings, it can be a big help. My sister lets the kids give her dogs water and special treats when they come over. This is only a good idea with dogs who are not protective over their food. Feeding the dogs helps to prepare the kids for becoming a responsible pet parent. It teaches them what it's like and gives you and your kids an idea of whether they can handle it or not.

Let the kids give basic commands. Part of being a responsible pet parent involves teaching dogs commands. These commands are important for strengthening the bond between your child and the dog. They are also vital in various situations. My sister has already taught her dogs the basic commands. However, she allows my kids to command them and reward her dogs with treats when they comply. This helps to educate them on the kind of commands they should be teaching their future dog. My seven year old has taught her hamster a trick and I believe the idea came in part from giving commands to my sister's dogs.

Spend quality time with shelter dogs. One of our favorite things to do is visit the animals housed by one of the local shelters. The kids and I go interact with the dogs and cats every week, many times more than once each week. Each dog has their own personality. Because of this, I feel it is teaching the kids to adapt to various scenarios they may encounter with their own dog. Some dogs will come up to us right away. Yet others may shy away in the corner until they feel comfortable. We also make toys for the shelter dogs. We sell some of the toys to earn money for the shelter pets and we donate some of the toys as well.

A well-rounded experience with dogs teaches kids what isn't in books. Sure, a book may touch on some of the things kids will experience as a dog parent. In fact, the kids should be studying up as well. But just reading the text is not enough. In order to be fully prepared and well-educated on dog care, one-on-one interaction is an absolute must. What are you doing to prepare your kids for adopting a furry family member?

*I originally published a version of this via Yahoo Contributor Network

by Lyn Lomasi, Staff Writer

Thinking of getting a dog? Just want your kids to know how to interact with them? Either way, it's an important lesson for all kids to learn. Teaching kids to interact with dogs takes time and patience but is well worth the effort. Before ever adopting a dog or having your kids around one for an extended period of time, they need to know what to do.

Dog safety lessons come first. Before your kids start interacting with dogs, they need to learn some important safety rules. While dogs can be great for kids, they are still animals and animals are unpredictable. Be sure your kids know what to do in various scenarios that may come up when interacting with dogs. Animal behavioral and care classes can often be taken at local animal shelters, rescues, and even some major pet store chains. Proper care is important. But so is injury and accident prevention.

Teach based on the reaction kids have to dogs and vice versa. How do your kids react to dogs? Do they run away? Are they gentle or rough? How do dogs act around your kids? Are they scared or in attack mode or are they gentle and loving. Reactions from both ends can tell you a great deal about what lessons your kids need to learn about dog interaction. It's not always a kid's fault when an animal feels threatened and vice versa. But the actions of both your kids and the dogs you expose them to can get you thinking about various positive actions you can teach to both for the best result. Even if all interactions are positive, there are still lessons to teach, such as certain things your kids can do to get dogs do tricks, follow commands, and be loyal.

Teach kids proper interaction firsthand. There is no better way for your kids to learn how to interact with dogs than actually doing it. If you are just talking to your kids and reading things from manuals, there is no one-on-one experience for them to better understand the lesson. If you can get both a professional dog trainer and dog behaviorist to work with your kids and a potential adoptive dog, that's even better. These experts can work together with kids and their dog to help them learn how to bond with each other and develop a positive relationship from the start. The experience can also help kids in knowing how to deal with other dogs as well.

Expose kids to dogs regularly. If a child is never around dogs, it is going to be exceedingly difficult to retain the knowledge. Once you begin teaching kids about proper interaction, they need to be around dogs as often as possible. The more exposure, the better for instilling the lesson and keeping it. If you have no dogs in your family, find friends with dogs or visit the local shelter. If your kids are old enough, they may even be able to volunteer to spend time with the animals, which would give them even more experience.

Talk to the experts. Vets and pediatricians will also have important knowledge and insight about the way kids should interact with dogs. Pediatricians are likely to have safety in mind for your child. Veterinarians are likely to have pet safety and care in mind. Talking with both experts will give your child a well-rounded lesson on dog interaction. By listening to the experts talk to your kids, you may also learn a thing or two.

*I originally published a version of this via Yahoo Contributor Network            

by Lyn Lomasi; Owner of Intent-sive Nature & Brand Shamans Content Community

"Please, Mommy. Pleeeeaaaase! He's soooo cuuute!!" If your kids are begging you to get a pet, think first before making that purchase. Many pets are bought on an impulse, which is sometimes not a good thing. Before you bring an animal into your home, be sure you teach your kids how to care for pets. It may seem simple in retrospect. But caring for an animal is a big responsibility that isn't for everyone.

Educate your kids first. Many pet supply stores and animal shelters have classes that kids can take to learn all about proper animal care. There are also plenty of books and trusted veterinary websites to learn more from. There is no excuse for not learning how to take care of a specific animal before making that purchase or adoption. Remember that any potential pet is a living, breathing being that deserves to be part of a loving, caring family. Our family's first hamster taught a valuable lesson about why parents need to educate kids before adopting a pet because we were the second family after the first family's neglect resulted in his blindness. Read, absorb, and discuss all the knowledge you and the kids can before bringing a new pet home.

Make your home pet-friendly. Think about what type of animal your family will be bringing home. Are there hidden dangers in your home that could be hazardous to your pet? Do you have other pets? How will they react to a new family member? Will your cat try to attack a hamster or a dog? If so, do not adopt those animals. Opt for pets that your existing animal family members will get along with or will be isolated from. Cats, dogs, birds, and other animals that may not be in cages need to be kept away from harmful items. Store chemicals in a locked cabinet, be sure there are no loose nails or chords, and check for other potential hazards. Pet-proofing can be much like baby-proofing. Let the kids help you with this so that they know and understand that pet care is serious business.

Soothe your pet's transition into the new home. When you bring your newly adopted animal into the home, he might be a little frightened or apprehensive. Give him time to adjust to his new settings. While your kids may want to play with your new pet right away, this may not be what the animal has in mind. A dog or cat may want to sniff out the place and even find a hiding spot for a little while before opening up. A hamster may want to hide under his bedding or inside a hamster house for a day or so. Give your pet some time to get used to the new surroundings and to you and the kids. Be sure the kids know how important this step is for your pet.

Show kids how to be gentle. This is one of the most important lessons kids need to learn with animals. Start teaching kids about this before you ever bring home a pet for the first time. A good way to do this is to bring the kids to homes of relatives with animals. You can even visit animal shelters regularly. Some will allow you and the kids to interact with the animals directly. This can help develop a relationship with a potential pet while also teaching the kids to be gentle with animals. If your children cannot be gentle with animals and do not have a visible care and compassion for them, pets are not a good idea.

Teach them about both the ups and the downs. Kids should know the joys of having pets, as well as the possible heartache. Having pets can be very rewarding and fun. Kids will enjoy playing with and observing pets. But they should also know that their pet will probably die before them. Small animals, like hamsters, live a very short life. Also, there is no guarantee that even a healthy animal will live its full life expectancy because anything can happen. Teaching kids about the possibility of their pet dying before it happens can help soften the blow when it does. You don't have to be overly graphic. But they should definitely know about both life and death when dealing with animals.

Pets are a fun and rewarding experience for both parents and kids. But it is vital to the health of your kids and pets to teach the children important pet care habits prior to adopting one.

*I originally published this as a Yahoo Shine Parenting Guru

Last updated on 12/9/2020

You might think that your children know that hitting animals is not acceptable, but do they really know? For adults, we look at it as common sense, children do not. We always want to reinforce safe behaviors for our pets and our children, here is how you can ensure that your children know not to hit animals.

It hurts, don’t do it! 

Explain to your children that pets, just like humans, experience pain in the same way.  Ask them how they would feel if somebody hit them, let them know that pets feel the same way.  Ensure your children understand, that not only does a pet feel the pain, they can respond by inflicting pain.

Monitor Your Children:

Many parents feel that they monitor their kids very well will of the presence of animals.  However, that may not be the case.  Count how many times you turn your back while your children are in the room with their pet dog.

Every time you turn your back, you’re not monitoring your child with the dog.  Unless you can be in the room and pay attention to every move your child makes, keep your dog in a secure area.  This is for the safety of the child and your dog.  Do this until your child understands that dogs have feelings too.

Teach your child which parts of the dog not to touch.

If your dog these iffy about having his tail or ears touched, teacher child that he does not like that.  Many dogs do not like children near their tail, or out of direct eyesight.  They do this for their safety.  Teach your children the zones that your dog does not like being pulled at or even petted.

Following the simple rules will ensure that your child and your dog have a safe experience with one another.

When my niece was small, she did not really care to talk to people. A later diagnosis would prove that she had autism, but we did not know it at the time. Her speech was suffering, and her focus was too. She spoke was able to speak very few words, and the ones that she could speak were not clear. We were at a loss as to how to get her to talk, until her doctor recommended that we get her a pet. He said that it didn’t matter what type of pet we got, just a pet in general would work. After debating hamsters, rats, cats, or dogs, we settled on getting her a dog.

We were careful about the type of pet we chose. After all, we would be doing most of the training and care of the pet, so it would have to suit everyone. We settled on a shelter dog. He was only a few months old, but you would not believe the difference he made in her life.

After a short period of time, she began to spend a lot of time with her dog. She began to talk to him, in her limited ability. She would take him outside and walk around the yard, teaching him everything she knew about the trees and the grass. She would lay and stare up at the sky and tell him about the clouds and the wind and the rain. Just seeing them together brought tears of joy to my eyes. A little girl, who had never really connected with anyone or anything, finally had someone who would sit and listen without judging her. Over time of talking to her dog, she was able to say more words than she ever had before. We were moved by the amount that her speech had improved.

Over the next few years, her vocabulary had expanded dramatically. We were able to have conversations with her, and she was able to provide us with answers. We were amazed at how great a pet was for her speech, especially since the dog was not able to initiate conversation.

Just simply having someone who was there to listen no matter what she said helped so much.  A pet is never judgmental, and will comfort you when you are upset. Many children with disabilities need this more than anything in the world. A pet is also a protector, someone who will keep them safe and pull them from danger.

As you know, children with disabilities like autism, tend to wonder off. Last year, my niece tried to wonder off. We had only turned our heads for a few seconds. Her dog barked like crazy and grabbed her by the back of the pants. He dragged her back into the yard. We praised him and spoiled him rotten after that. We live only a half of a block from a large creek, and that was the direction she was going.

If you decide to get your child a pet to help them through their disability, please adopt a shelter pet. Shelter pets need your child, just as much as your child needs them.

By Charlene Little, Contributing Writer

It is never too early to teach your children to respect animals. From the time they are able to move their hands toward a desired location, you can begin. Teaching your children to be easy with animals and to not pull their hair, tails, and ears is very important. Pets deserve respect, and do not deserve pain. Setting a positive example for your children, you can teach them how to properly touch your pets and help them build compassion.

When your child is only a few months old you can begin the journey of teaching them a positive relationship with pets. Gently rubbing your pet's head and telling them to "be easy with the puppy" is the first step. Your child will see how you treat the animal, and will see the positive interaction. I have already began this journey with my four-month old son.

Everyday I sit with him on my lap, and one of our pets next to me. I show him the way he should pet the kitty. Even though he is only four months old, he is able to gently touch the kitty instead of hit him like most babies do. Starting the journey of interacting with pets early will prevent having to go back to stop negative behaviors. It will also build trust between your child and your pet early on.

Remember to never leave a pet alone with a child who does not know how to positively interact with a pet

____________________________________________________________________________________________________
About the Author

Charlene Little is the mother of three wonderful boys and a volunteer foster mom for her local animal shelter. She enjoys working with various breeds of dogs and cats in learning social behavior, training, and how to be the successful member of a fur-ever family. She enjoys studying animals' behavior and finding solutions to behavior problems that the everyday person can handle. She covers topics from various forms of aggression and small problem behaviors. Every problem behavior has a solution, and the solution is never to give up on your pet! Love, kindness, and small adjustments could be just what you need.

That's right. All you need to do is ask your child to read your dog some stories. This can be a good activity to keep your dog busy, in addition to being helpful for your child.

Pick a quiet space. Obviously, the dog is not going to be attentive if there is too much going on. Neither is your child. Choose a spot for the reading where there won't be interruptions or loud noises going on. It's also a good idea to use pillows, a beanbag chair, or another cozy space to keep them both comfortable.

Make it a routine. Have a specific time every day that your dog needs to hear his stories. Let your child know what that time is and plan it according to what seems to work for both your child and the dog. A good example would be the time the dog normally takes a nap. That way, everyone will be relaxed.



Keep it fun. Don't worry about whether your child is pronouncing everything correctly or not. Just let her read to the dog and have fun. Save the lessons for homeschool or study time. This time is intended to encourage, inspire, and delight your child.

Have you tried this yet or have ideas or questions? Let us know in a comment below!

Last updated on 12/8/2020